Thursday, January 10, 2008

Irony

This is rare...

Two blogs in one day!

But I have to post about something I just read!

I am more of a blog reader, than I am a blogger! LOL I know some of you can probably relate. My first passion, is the traditional journaling, I LOVE TO WRITE!!!! So, I write more than I blog!!!! I write on a daily basis, all the time. My most intimate thoughts, my fears, my strenghts, blessings, things that tick me off, things that hurt me, things that I am confused about....
I get a pen and a pad and WRITE....

Today I am going to share with you something that truly made me realize, we can't protect our kids from everything.

Jaree has had several seizures, while there has been no brain damage, thank God!!!! It has affected her speech. I rarely even talk about this, because I get so choked up, but ok....Woooo! Let me try and get this out, without choking up...LOL

One day Jaree came to me and said " Mommy, why did God make me different?" and I said,
"Baby what do you mean, different?" She said with tears in her eyes "Why am I RETARDED?" I felt like a hundred daggers had been drove into my heart. That is when I realized, "wow, I can't shelter my kids from hurt". It was really a devastating moment for me. I took my baby in my arms and I told her that SHE WAS NOT RETARDED, but God did not make her different, and that she was NORMAL as the other kids. But, God made her SPECIAL, He made her BEAUTIFUL and he made me the happiest mother in the world, when he chose me to be her mother.

From that day forward, she has never told me that anyone called her names, but I know they do. Does it affect her? Of course, but I build her up everyday! I always tell her how smart she is, by the way, she is not in any special education or modified courses and she is a STRAIGHT A student, She reads at a upper 7th grade level and is in 3rd grade, and she is smart as A WHIP. She has been reading chapter books, since 1st grade and learned to read at 4. So she is doing pretty damned good, if you ask me.

To be honest, it PISSED me off. I wanted to go up to the school and start slapping the hell out of every child who called my baby a name....and I am speaking HONESTLY. I am not sugar coating anything, but my mom raised a person with good common sense and I know I can't do that, but IT WAS A THOUGHT....lol

I was reading this post by my good friend Bonnierose, which led me to this post by Jill Conyers.

As I was reading, I just cried, because my mind went directly to JAREE!

I had just written down, in my journal that I wanted to do a 'YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL' mini album for her and at that point it was just an idea, today for me, it 's an affirmation. I am going to start on it TODAY! As soon as we arrive home from the hospital. I don't care how tired I am ....This is a must for me now.

I encourage us all, as mothers to BUILD OUR DAUGHTERS UP, to UPLIFT THEM, to tell them all the things they want to hear, so they don't have to turn to the STREETS, to hear someone tell them that they love them, but they really don't. You get where I am going with this? LOL

Even more, I am going to do my very first challenge. MOTHERS of daughters, I encourage you to do a layout or even a mini album using the 'YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL theme. I will pick 3 winners and send you a very special rak!!!

Thanks Bonnie! and Thanks Jill Conyers!!! I needed that INSPIRATION TODAY!!!!

Until next time...

6 comments:

Linda said...

Good challenge. I am going to think about this, I have two girls so I agree with you about lifting them up.

Heather said...

Great idea for a mini and great challenge Dana. Even though I have a boy I am always concerned about how I am going to help him through the times when someone isn't nice to him. They are our babies and we want to protect them.

Aimeslee said...

I'd love to participate, but I'd need a few weeks to get it done, so any idea when this challenge will be due, Dana?

Also, when do you hear back about Jaree's test? Keeping her in my prayers...

Colleen said...

This is a wonderful idea, but I also think we need to do the same for our boys and let them know how bright and talented they are! Can't wait to see some of these!

BonnieRose said...

One awesome idea. gf.. thks for the shout out.. since I'm going on a sb retreat this weekend, this is one layout I am gonna do.. will send you the pic or blog it.. be watching my blog gf.. great idea! I'm definitely up for this one, especially since I'll be scrapping this weekend... hugs ya love ya gf.... bonnierose

toners said...

Great post, Dana. Girls need all the encouragement they can get; I try to do that with mine every day, even if it's about the tiniest little thing. This is one of the tough parts of parenting, right? Sending (((hugs)))