Lots going on here!

I guess most of you could probably tell from my "what people do to bug me" post, I was a little angry...LOL Well, I guess I cannot hide it well. I am. First of all, most of yesterday was a good day. One of my best friends Tori came over, haven't seen her in awhile, she was training for the police academy. She called me yesterday and wanted to come over to the house and spend some time with me. We had a good time. I really missed her. We are sooo much alike. Then I got a call saying that my niece Aaliyah had been admitted to the hospital, turns out that she has DOUBLE pneunomnia, and on top of that she had a really bad asthma attack. Today I am going to the hospital to sit with my baby. For some reason, in our family, our nieces and nephews are more like our own children. I guess because we were so close as siblings..
Especially, my sisters kids. They even call me "mom". I guess it goes back to the old African Proverb "It takes a village to raise one child". I am getting ready to go get her some coloring books and reading books to bring up there so that she's not bored.

Now, here is what a good day go bad. Warning: Long story!

My little cousin Diontae attends High School with my son. He lives with his grandmother on his dad's side, because he chose to run away from home. His life with his mother was not the best. I will say she did not provide a safe haven for her children. She chose something over her children. I am going to leave it at that. So, Vanita (his paternal grandmother) took him in. Well, the school district in which they live is not a good one. In fact, i wouldn't send my dog to the school. There's a fight in the school everyday, put it this way, we had D.A.R.E police officers and truancy officers at school . They have real police in bullet proof jackets in their school...Enough said!

Out of the goodness of my whole heart, I decided to let Diontae use my address, to attend a good school where he could be safe. Going against alot of people in my family, who did not want me to deal with Vanita, because to be frank the lady is LOCO! After much hesitation and deliberation, I decided, against my better judgement, to allow him to go to my son's high school. Much to my mom's dismay, who protested hard against this. It was not because of Diontae, my mom didn't want me getting involved with his grandmother...

This is the reason why you should always listen to your mother:

Vanita calls my dh yesterday and tells him that it is a shame that a grown woman would be in cahoots with a 16 year old kid, lying and deceiving her...my hubby told her he didn't know what she was talking about and that she needed to be talking to me...

I get on the phone, not even knowing who I was talking to, and right away....she starts attacking me. Saying that I was decietful, and that I was keeping Diontae's progress report at my home so that he wouldn't get in trouble. Never once did this lady ask me what was going on, she just went on the attack. I let her ramble on for about 15 minutes. She even said, she knew Diontae got his progress report months ago and she was just letting it all build up.....why did she say that: I went off! I said, "Are you finish now" and she said "yes" and then I let her ass have it " I told her first of all, what were you letting build up. What are you going to do. Is that a threat? What are you letting build up. Are you a child or an adult? If you had called an asked me, instead of yapping at the gums, I would have told you that I gave Diontae his progress report months ago, and while we are on the subject, his report card too. Since, you know SO DAMNED much, he got a report card too!! I am not in any cahoots with anyone. I told her that "any rational parent would have called to see what was going on months ago (since she said had been letting it all build up)? All you had to do was call and ask. For the record, don't ever call my house with any more BS (but used the real term)! Then she said it! Wanna know what it is? I will tell you . She said the she must have been a "MFing" fool to be dealing with this "low class, trashy ass family". Why did she say that to me of all people? I can't tell you what I said, because it would be tooo many explicatives, so here is the rated version " I told her that Affiliation brings on Assimilation, meaning LIke attract like....When your son decided to lay down and make a baby with my cousin, he too became trashy and low class. Then I said this and it cut her down to the bone " If I am so low class and trashy, and knew this prior to placing your PRECIOUS grandson's EDUCATION in my hands, then what the hell does that make you ? You are either Low class and trashy your self or A PLUM FOOL! To be quite frank, you are both. I told her that I will be transferring Diontae out on MOnday, that she can send him to the High class High School in her area, and in the future do not EVER, EVER NEVER, NEVER EVER, call my house or come to it for any reason, because she might not be received well. Actually told her something alot worse, but you get the picture. She asked me if I was threatening her and I told "No Sweetheart, I do not make Threats, only Promises." If she comes to my house with all of that BS, I will have no other choice than to defend my CASTLE. That is the law! I have everyright to defend myself. Don't get me wrong, I don't think I am the toughest person in the world, to be honest, I don't even like to get into altercations, but this woman is asking for me to open up a can of "Whoop ass". She doesn't even know me. She knows of me! I don't even like to show this side of myself, but she brought me to this place. Then, to show you how ignorant she truly is, she had her son (Diontae's father) on 3-way. Why, am I talking to you in the first place. I should have been talking to his father. I also told her " I know that you took Diontae in, and that is a noble thing. However, If your son had been a stand up guy or HIGH CLASS as you put it, he should have stepped up to the plate and took his own son." Why did you, the grandmother have to take over his role too. Don't talk about my cousin (Diontae's mother), without first talking about your son, because they are equally wrong. Now you got both of your grown HIGH CLASS sons living at home with you and your HIGH CLASS *explicative* combat boot, perm wearing, alcoholic *explicative* husband. Then I told her I don't know why I am arguing with a DRUNK anyway (she drinks like a fish) because she won't remember 10 words I said tommorrow. I told her that she better hold on to these words though (right before I broke my phone, hanging up on her) "Don't ever call or dark my door step, or she would really find out how Low class and trashy I can get". Then I broke my cell phone by slamming the flip part so hard, because I was that angry.

Then I got soooooooooooooo mad at myself, for giving an Ignorant person like that, that much control over me. The control I am speaking of, is that fact that I allowed her to make me that mad!

It seems that everytime I try to help someone, it comes back to bite me in the butt. From now on, the only children that I am going to help, will be BEE, JARI, AND JAREE! I have my own children to worry about. You can't help everyone. I cannot save the world. This isn't the first time, this has happened with someone's child. You would think that I would have learned my lesson by now. But, I never thought it would happen with FAMILY. However, it is my own fault, because I was not dealing with FAMILY, I was dealing with HIGH CLASS DRUNKS!

I think I am okay now......
I got it all out.....

Woooooooo Saaaaaaaaaa!
LOL

Until next time...

Dana